The most important video I’ve ever done… check it out!Read More
Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can't respect our boundaries are telling us that they don't love our nos. They only love our yeses, our compliance. "I only like it when you do what I want.”
― Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry CloudRead More
Communicating accurately and communicating effectively are two very different things.
When we’re angry, scared, threatened, nervous, ashamed, or embarrassed, we tend to communicate very accurately what we’re feeling… but it isn’t very effective.
That’s the tricky part.
How do we communicate in a way that enriches, uplifts, and strengthens our relationship when emotions are running high, blood is pumping in our ears, and we feel like we either want to punch our partner or completely shut down?Read More
I had heard smoke alarms go off before… but it was always because a battery needed to be replaced.
This was different.
It was 2 in the morning, and I could hear my neighbors in my apartment building running down the hall.
“Oh crappy crap crap… this is a real fire.”Read More
In order to help you achieve that goal, I need to inspire you to make changes in the way you act, speak, think, and feel in order for you to get the results you want.
Then, I have to help you find a way to make those changes STICK! Changing for 24 hours, 24 days, or even 24 weeks does not an epic marriage make.
Those good choices you choose to make after listening to one of my podcasts or reading a blog post like this have to stick.
You’ve gotta repeat them over and over and over again for them to make a real difference.
So, what makes behavior change like that possible?Read More
The days between Christmas and the new year are some of my FAVORITE days of the year.
I’ve spend a lot of time thinking about what I want 2019 to look like, what I want to accomplish, and how I want to change and evolve.
There’s something exciting about the whole world choosing a day to give themselves a fresh start, and an opportunity to change.
In today’s post I’m going to give you a look into how I set my personal and professional goals for my year. Feel free to steal some of my ideas, share some of your own, and let me know in the comments what your plans are to level up next year!Read More
It doesn’t take too many “shocks” to teach your partner that something isn’t safe.
Sometimes you shock our partner with an eye-roll. Sometimes you shock them with a critical comment, “You’re not doing that right!” or “You’ve got to be kidding me…” Sometimes it’s a loud, irritated sigh, or an emotional outburst.
When you shock your partner, you tell them “You’re not safe if you keep doing what you’re doing. You’d better not do it again, or you’ll get zapped.”Read More
Most marriages are average because most human beings simply prefer comfort over pain.
By embracing comfort you might be avoiding pain, but you’re also avoiding satisfaction, fulfillment, achievement, elation, joy, happiness, peace, hope, inspiration and so much more.Read More
For over a decade you’ve helped countless people launch successful businesses, take control of their finances, and begin living their version of a rich life. You’ve created a community of fanboys (and girls) because you give away most of your very best information, resources, and tools for free.
As a thank you for giving so many people (including myself) the tools to crush it at life, I want to repay the favor.Read More