Do you expect too much from your partner? With Logan Ury

“...We come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide. Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it's a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that.”

–Esther Perel

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"We just need better communication..." and other lies we convince ourselves of

Working to develop new communication skills or giving your partner the benefit of the doubt more often isn’t going to improve your relationship.

The reason it doesn’t work is because these common issues are really symptoms of a much bigger problem that’s lying below the surface of your relationship…

You lack emotional safety.

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Love Without Boundaries Will Not Last

Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can't respect our boundaries are telling us that they don't love our nos. They only love our yeses, our compliance. "I only like it when you do what I want.”

― Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud

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What a Master Interrogator Can Teach You About Love

Communicating accurately and communicating effectively are two very different things.

When we’re angry, scared, threatened, nervous, ashamed, or embarrassed, we tend to communicate very accurately what we’re feeling… but it isn’t very effective.

That’s the tricky part.

How do we communicate in a way that enriches, uplifts, and strengthens our relationship when emotions are running high, blood is pumping in our ears, and we feel like we either want to punch our partner or completely shut down?

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How Breathing Can Improve Your Relationship

In order to help you achieve that goal, I need to inspire you to make changes in the way you act, speak, think, and feel in order for you to get the results you want.

Then, I have to help you find a way to make those changes STICK! Changing for 24 hours, 24 days, or even 24 weeks does not an epic marriage make.

Those good choices you choose to make after listening to one of my podcasts or reading a blog post like this have to stick.

You’ve gotta repeat them over and over and over again for them to make a real difference.

So, what makes behavior change like that possible?

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How to make your dreams become reality next year!

The days between Christmas and the new year are some of my FAVORITE days of the year.

I’ve spend a lot of time thinking about what I want 2019 to look like, what I want to accomplish, and how I want to change and evolve.

There’s something exciting about the whole world choosing a day to give themselves a fresh start, and an opportunity to change.

In today’s post I’m going to give you a look into how I set my personal and professional goals for my year. Feel free to steal some of my ideas, share some of your own, and let me know in the comments what your plans are to level up next year!

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