What if your marriage was different?
Imagine waking up in the morning to a kiss on the cheek as your significant other leans in close and whispers, “I love you so much. I’m so glad I married you.”
As you put on your jacket to leave for the day, you reach in your pocket and find a love note listing all the little things you do that fill your partner with joy. You smile to yourself and breathe a sigh of gratitude.
Throughout the day you get a series of flirtatious texts that make your heart flutter. You look over your shoulder to make sure nobody else can see your secret textual romance.
You come home, and before you can say, “Hello, how was your day?” you’re pinned against the wall as your partner passionately kisses you.
After enjoying a delicious dinner together, you engage in heartfelt conversation. You feel seen, heard and understood by your lover. As you make your way to the bedroom you wonder to yourself, “How did I get so lucky?”
This is what a Five Star ★★★★★ marriage looks like.
Maybe your marriage looks like this already... if so, this page isn’t for you.
But if your marriage doesn’t look this way, this might be the most important page you ever read.
First, read the the questions below. If you answer “yes” to any of them, you’ll want to read the WHOLE page. It could literally transform your marriage and change the course of your life.
Your marriage is dangerously average if you can answer yes to at least 3 of these questions:
Do you and your partner have the same stupid arguments over and over?
Do you ever feel like sex is an inconvenient chore? Maybe you feel like the passion train has left the station, never to return?
Are you constantly stressing about money?
Do you go on the same date night every week and feel like you’ve completely run out of interesting things to talk about?
Do you feel like you’ve had to sacrifice your dreams and freedom for a boring, stressful life?
Do you feel like your marriage isn’t bad… but it’s not that good either?
Do you feel like your partner puts your kids before your marriage?
Do you ever feel like no matter what you do for your partner, it’s never enough?
If you answered yes to at least three of these questions, I have news for you! You’re a pretty average, normal couple.
But wait a second… when you got married, you didn’t want an average, normal marriage, did you?
You wanted something extraordinary! You wanted passion, adventure, intimacy and laughter.
You SWORE you’d never turn into your parents and have a stale, loveless, sexless or boring marriage.
You were going to be different!
You were going travel the world, make out at the movies, have the best inside jokes, and gross your grandkids out by telling them how much you love each other.
Then reality hit.
Maybe it started with school loans and bills that had to be paid. Maybe you had kids that cut your sleep-time in half. Maybe you started pooping with the door open. Maybe you stopped making out on the couch between commercials, or buying each other little gifts.
Bit by bit the magic disappeared from your marriage. You let go of your hopes, and decided, “This is just what happens when a couple is together as long as we’ve been together.”
If you are open-minded, I want to invite you to consider something...
This idea that boring sex, giving up on your dreams, getting fat and lazy, losing passion, and running out of things to talk about is “Just something that happens” is a load of crap.
I’m not content with you having an mediocre marriage for the rest of your life!
That’s why I created the Marriage Bootcamp.
What’s the Marriage Bootcamp?
Marriage Bootcamp is a 6 week deep-dive into the most important relationship in your life.
You’ll take a good hard look at what’s working, and what’s not working in your marriage. You’ll get crystal clear on what you want more of, and what you want less of. You’ll have some amazing conversations, and if you do the work, your relationship WILL transform. (Think the Megazord from Power Rangers.)
5 days a week you’ll get a resource along with a valuable tool, lesson or tactic you can implement that very day.
During the bootcamp, here’s what we’ll cover and what you’ll get out of it:
Week 1 - Mindset
What’s the purpose of your marriage? Why are you together? If you don’t have a clear why, you don’t have direction or purpose. In this week we’ll:
Identify the most powerful “Why?” you can have for your marriage
Get rid of the stories in your head and the bad agreements that keep you from having the love you want
Transform the way you relate to fear, rejection, and failure
Overcome the victim in your head that’s holding you back (partnership)
Get fiercely committed to your new “Why?”
Week 2 - Communication
Everyone says “good communication” is the key to a good marriage. But do you know what good communication actually is? Hint: It’s not being a good listener, or saying things like, “When you do ______, I feel ______.” This week we’ll learn to:
Express needs and wants in a way that makes your partner want to meet them
How to build unbreakable trust starting with the words you use
The rituals that make it almost impossible for your marriage to fail. (Bids)
Week 3 - Conflict
Do you have the same fights over and over again? Do you shut down, attack your partner’s character, or completely run away when you get in an argument? If you answered yes to any of these questions, this week will change everything for you. We will learn to:
Bring up something that’s bugging you without pissing your partner off or hurting their feelings
Defeat the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that make it impossible for you to communicate in times of conflict
Master the most powerful way to heal your partner when they’re emotionally wounded
Week 4 - Emotional Health
Do you feel like when your partner has a bad day, or a bad week you get sucked into it with them? Do your emotions (disappointment, anger, loneliness, anxiety and depression) infect those around you? In this week we’ll talk about:
How to have connection without sacrificing your true self and how to have you independance without sacrificing meaningful connection
Why your emotions are contagious… unless you know how to inoculate yourself and how to not get sucked into your partner’s downward spiral.
What to do when your marriage reaches “gridlock” (risking the relationship)
Week 5 - Sex
A lot of things that happen (or don’t happen) in the bedroom have a huge impact on the quality of your marriage. Let’s kick self-conscious, unfulfilling, disconnected, manipulative sex to the curb. I want you to have amazing, connected, passionate, uplifting, inspiring sex that lights your heart on fire. This week we’ll cover:
The importance of knowing and developing confidence in your own body
The myths of the arousal process
The art of foreplay, coreplay, and choreplay
Sexual shame and sexual fantasies
Week 6 - Finances
The way you spend your money is a reflection of your values. This week we’ll talk less about actually managing the money, and more about really understanding the emotions, desires, and beliefs we have around money. We’ll cover:
How the home you were raised in affects how you feel about money today.
What fears you have around money
What goals do you have around money
Week 7 - Health and Fitness
If you don’t have a healthy body, you can’t be at your best. The state of your physical health affects the amount of energy you have, the way you feel about yourself, the level of attraction your partner has for you, your emotional health, and even the types of adventures you can pursue.
Identify all the excuses you use to not take care of yourself
Identify why it’s important to your partner and for your marriage for you to be healthy.
Week 8 - Creating and Pursuing Your Dreams
The most extraordinary couples are always pursuing something together… often something that is bigger than their marriage and has an impact on their community. Building your dreams together is like putting the icing on the birthday cake.
But extraordinary five star marriages only exist for people willing to do the work. And
Who is it for?
The Marriage Bootcamp is not for everyone. But if you’ve read this far and you’re interested, most likely it’s for you. Just to clarify, here’s who I’ve created this for:
Couples looking for results who are willing to take action to get them!
Couples in their first few years of marriage who want to kick things off on the right foot
Couples going through a transition period, like empty nesters, or after having your first kid or two
Couples who feel like they’re in a slump
Couples who have a good marriage but want an AMAZING marriage
Who is it not for?
Couples who are not BOTH on board with this program. If one of you is reluctant to participate in the bootcamp, it’s probably not for you.
Couples who have large amounts of debt. (Get it paid off before you make this investment.)
Couples who are on the brink of divorce. (Most likely couples in this situation need a lot more 1-on-1 counseling than is provided in this program.)
Couples looking to learn something new, but lack commitment to take action
Couples who are not married or in a long-term, monogamous, committed relationship.
If you know this is for you
If you know the Marriage Bootcamp is for you. Please fill out the application below:
Still have questions?
It’s natural to have questions about a program like this. I totally get it. Below I’ve answered some of the most common questions. If you still have questions after this, apply, and if you qualify we can get on the phone and chat.
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