Do you feel like the closer you try to get to your partner, the more they pull away? Maybe you feel like no matter what you do, your partner won't open up to you, they dismiss your needs and feelings, and things just get swept under the rug?

Pelvic Floor Disorders occur in 1 out of every 4 women.

Things like urinary incontinence, fecal incontinence, uterine prolapse and chronic constipation are incredibly common.

But just because peeing your pants after you have a baby is a common problem doesn’t make it normal.

And here’s the kicker: 80-90% of women who experience a pelvic floor disorder experience some type of sexual dysfunction.

Do I have your attention?

Have you sat on the toilet playing Candy Crush until your phone battery dies, and then though, “What the heck am I doing?

Or maybe you spent an entire day laying on the couch in a heap watching The Office… when then you notice the sun has set, and you’re still wearing your pajamas. You’ve wasted the entire day.

And then you tell yourself, “I deserve this. I deserve a break.”

Yeah, I’ve been there.

Wanna hear some of the worst relationship advice I’ve ever heard?

“If you prioritize your partner’s needs, and they prioritize your needs, your marriage will go well.”

*Hnnnnnnggggh!*

Sorry, that was the sound of me having an anger-aneurysm...

This advice a recipe for disaster.

Keep reading if you want to understand why.

Do you think your husband is a narcissist?

When you first met him, he was extremely likable.

He was charismatic, charming, and flirtatious.

Everyone who met him immediately liked him… and you felt like the luckiest girl in the world that he chose you.

Then, over time, things started to change.

I hate working out…

My lungs burn. Sometimes I feel like puking. And the next day I’m sore.

...But I love the results of a strong body.

Last week, New York Times bestselling author, Rachel Hollis, and her husband announced they are getting a divorce.

Why should you care?

Because whether you follow, admire, or even know who the Hollises are, there are some lessons to be learned in their failed relationship that could help you avoid their same fate.

Rachel and Dave are arguably the most popular self-help couple on the planet right now.

A few weeks ago I had to get to an important appointment.

Lots of important people were at this meeting.

They couldn’t have it without me.

I was nervous.

I’ve been a marriage researcher for almost a decade.

I teach people regularly that defensiveness and criticism nearly always manifest themselves together.

If one partner is overly-critical, the other is often overly-defensive.

But only recently did it occur to me that sometimes when we feel criticized by others, it’s really us using other people to reflect our own self-judgment back at ourselves.

Growing up, I believed a horrible lie.

I had this idea that when I got married, my life would revolve around my wife, her needs, her wants, and her dreams. And her life would revolve around mine.